The School of Life

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Kids learn important life lessons when they shop with their parents

This column appeared in 2020, Issue 4 of California Grocer magazine

By Kimberly Rae Miller

I still have the unicorn party supplies I bought for my daughter’s first birthday in a box next to my desk. A year ago, as I called the bakery to cancel her birthday cake, I took comfort in the fact that if nothing else, I didn’t have to go to work on my baby’s first birthday. Next year, I thought, would be different.

It’s next year and it’s not different…yet. The unicorn-themed plates and cups and party hats will have to wait one more year. As we gear up for her second homebound birthday, I can’t wait to expose her to all the normal life stuff she’s missed in the last year. At 22-months, she can’t remember ever going to a restaurant. She’s never had a play date, gone to a fair, picked an ice-pop from the ice cream truck or gleefully raced down grocery store aisles in a cart driven by her dad while I yell, “Stop, please don’t hit anyone!”  

Grocery shopping with kids is, despite the unavoidable meltdowns, something I miss. I miss seeing my son, who has never been much of an eater, get excited by food. I miss plotting our own baking projects as we roam the bakery section. I miss the way he tries to strike up conversations with everyone he sees. 

For most of us, shopping for food is just a part of daily life, something we have to do, but for small children, it’s an adventure. The grocery store is where kids get to exercise a small amount of control, helping to choose family meals. It’s where they learn about commerce. Where they learn about nutrition. It’s where they learn what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior. Where they discover foods from other cultures. Where they meet their neighbors. Sure, it’s where we buy food, but it’s also where we teach our kids important lessons about how to take care of themselves. 

I took it for granted before, but when as the world opens back up, I’m looking forward to including my daughter into our grocery store adventures. I don’t know how many more years I have that my kids will actually want to roam the produce aisles with me, sneaking unwashed raspberries into their mouths despite my protestations. The raspberries are a battle I’ll never win, so I’ll just savor it while it lasts.  

Mark your calendars, next year we’re having one “rager” of a third birthday party. I hope you like unicorns. 

Combatting Food Insecurity is Everyone’s Business

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There’s no more comforting feeling than unpacking the spoils of a large grocery shop. A full fridge is a sign that my family is well taken care of.

I’m lucky, I have a working refrigerator. I’m able-bodied and capable of shopping for my family regularly. I live in a home that’s free from vermin. And, most importantly, I have the funds to be able to afford to keep a stocked refrigerator and pantry.

But that wasn’t always the case, no when I was growing up. I had a somewhat atypical childhood (I wrote a whole book about it!) and the times in which I lived with food insecurity shaped much about the way I live my life and feed my family today.

While food insecurity may be part of my past, according to the USDA there are currently 14.3 million Americans living with the uncertainty that they can adequately provide nutrition for themselves and their families. In many instances, the people struggling to put food on the table aren’t who you’d suspect.

They’re young families that make too much to qualify for food assistance, but not enough to cover the rising cost of housing, transportation, childcare and food. It’s the elderly patron who puts off shopping because their fixed income or inability to get to the store safely or carry their groceries into their home.

It’s the nice middle-aged woman who asks about your kids at checkout, but is living with hoarding disorder and doesn’t have the sanitary means to store fresh food at home. It’s the family raising kids in an urban food desert who don’t have access to healthful foods.

Feeding my family, making sure that my children have fresh fruits and vegetables, healthy sources of protein and a seemingly endless supply of milk is at the forefront of my priorities.

Every time I packed up my trunk I am thankful that my kids will never worry about the freshness of their food or if they will need to worry about running out.

Taking for granted that fresh food is available is a luxury I’m grateful I can provide them with, but I will always instill in them the knowledge that not everyone is so lucky.

As we embark on a new year I implore you to think of ways you can give back to those members of your community living with food insecurity, either by donating foods that are close to expiration to local food banks, hosting community events to help your neighbors in need, or by reaching out to one customer at a time to see how you can help.

I know that feeding people is your business, but making sure our communities are taken care of everyone’s business.

Subscribing My Way Out Of A Food Rut

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Novelty Services Don’t Take the Place of my regular shopping — in fact, they often encourage me to buy more than I normally would.

By Kimberly Miller
Writer, Actress

There was a time when I considered myself a bit of a gourmand. I read food blogs and cookbooks for fun, watched the Food Network religiously, followed celebrity chefs on social media, and read their memoirs to live vicariously through their escapades.

Each week I spent half my weekend (and paycheck) hopping from shop to shop in search of the perfect ingredients for the complicated, restaurant-worthy dishes I’d make during the week ahead. Making beautiful food was what I did to relax after a long day of work.

Dinner these days is the opposite of relaxing. Each night I make three different meals: one that’s meatless, high in protein and low in carbs for my bodybuilder/vegetarian husband; something “not yucky” for my toddler who considers dinner time a battle Royale; and for myself I make something without soy or dairy since I’m nursing a baby with food allergies. Needless to say I’m just making the same easy to prepare stuff night after night after night.

Insert yawn here.

It’s because of this food rut that I decided to take a chance on a mystery produce delivery subscription. Fruits and vegetables are the only foods everyone in my family can eat at the same time, and I desperately needed to shake things up.

The first box did not disappoint. Garlic scapes! Swiss chard! Teeny tiny sweeter than sweet mangoes! Everything included was stuff that was either too small or too misshapen to sell well in a regular market.

But to me, it was the inspiration I needed to enjoy cooking again. Something I hadn’t done in a long time. I could make my own compound butter with the garlic scapes. Steam and sauté the Swiss chard and serve with a beautiful fillet of salmon, make a mango lassi to go along with the aloo gobi I’d make from the potatoes and fresh cauliflower in the box.

Hooked, I immediately signed up for a weekly subscription to the service, but after about a month realized that while I loved the novelty and the inspiration it provided me, I also craved control over the contents of my fridge. We’re a family with two working parents and two kids — I need a plan! SO now I get a box every two months instead, enough to revive my zeal for cooking, but not so much that it goes to waste because we just don’t have the time to get creative every night.

Novelty services like this one don’t take the place of my regular shopping — in fact, they often encourage me to buy more than I normally would — what they do is break up the monotony of a yawn-worth grocery list.

While I only get a surprise produce bo on my doorstep every couple of months, I’m now taking more chances when I roam the aisles of my regular store each week. Sure, my toddler may not like kabocha squash, but he won’t know unless he tries it.

Read more from Issue 5 of California Grocer.

The Hard-Learned Lessons of Feeding Small Humans

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The arrival of a second child creates a whole new look at grocery shopping

Before my son was born, I was petrified of everything. How our life would change, how I would change, and that this whole making a new human thing was a terrible, terrible mistake.

My husband, on the other hand, was cool as a cucumber. He knew that our kid was going to be amazing, and we could be amazing parents, and all was right with the world. And of course, he knew that our kid would eat what we eat; we wouldn’t raise one of those brats that demand a special meal every night.

We’re a couple of weeks away from baby No. 2 making her appearance, and this go-around our roles are reversed. He’s scared of re-entering the realm of the utterly exhausted, while I know it will be chaos for me, chaos has become a comfortable status quo that is worth its weight in hugs and giggles.

To be honest, part of my newly-found sense of chill is that my standards are now much, much lower. The likelihood that I’ll stay up late to clean, dice, steam and puree all of her baby food from scratch as I did for her brother is pretty slim.

I’ve learned that applesauce from a pouch is infinitely more coveted than apples picked at a local orchard that have been stewed and mashed at home, and that organic food is to be purchased strategically. Dairy, the dirty dozen, and some well-established favorites are about all the organic items I will fit into my $500 a month grocery budget.

Almost everything else will end up in my (ever expanding) dog or my vacuum anyway. And of course, I know that chicken nuggets shaped like dinosaurs are a food group in and of themselves.

I once heard the CEO of a children’s store chain talk about how the vast majority of their revenue comes from first-time parents. When subsequent kids come along parents spend far, far less, either because they already have what they need or because they know that kids don’t need much at all.

I’m no expert, but I’d say when it comes to feeding small children the opposite is true. As pro parents this go around we are no longer under the misconception that toddlers will happily gobble up tofu stir-fries or shakshuka for dinner.

Most of our grocery budget is spent with the nourishment and cooperation of tiny humans in mind. The rest of us…well, we’re just learning to appreciate a good dinosaur-shaped budget.